I’m so sorry to hear the news about your Grandad. This must be a very difficult time for you, and it is natural that you’re worried about him. Attempting to manage these worries should help you cope with the news and at the same time hopefully be of support to your grandad. Here are some useful tips:
- Accepting that you are worried, and maybe if you want to, have a cry. You may want to do this with another family member, who may also be worried. Sharing your feelings and emotions with someone close to you can really help.
- If you haven’t already, it may be a good idea to get everyone together to talk about what is happening and how you feel about it. Your mum, dad and grandma may want to talk. If not, then that’s okay, at least everyone has had the opportunity.
- You can also talk to grandad about things. He does not need to be involved in all the discussions, but at least he has also the chance to talk about his feelings. Your grandad may be able to put things into perspective for you and help you manage your emotions.
- Learning about his diagnosis can also help. There are different stages to cancer, and it may be that your grandad has the very early stages, which means that he has a big chance of recovery.
For more guidance, advice and for an answer to any particular questions you have, there is a really useful organisation called Maggie’s, which provides free practical, emotional and social support to people with cancer and their family and friends. They have a helpline and an online centre, where you can talk to a professional about your situation:
0300 123 1808
There is also Macmillan Cancer Support, where you can find out information about cancer types and treatment, and again talk to a professional:
Find out about cancer in teens and young adults, symptoms, tests, treatments and living with cancer
0808 808 0000
I hope you will find the above useful and that it helps you manage your emotions. If there is anything you don’t understand or want to get some general advice on what to do next why not contact the Meic Helpline on phone: 0808802345, text: 84001 or IM: www.meic.cymru
Take Care Deary
All the best