I have fallen out with all my friends

Wicid Nan….

I don’t know what to do.  Me and my friends have got into a really silly argument but now the most of us are not speaking to each other.  We are in a group chat and I said something that was taken the wrong way, but then lots of people jumped on and everyone fell out with each other.

It was such a silly argument, but now I don’t know what to do? How can I fix it? It makes me feel really lonely in school.


Oh hello my deary,

It sounds like you are having a tough time at the moment.  I hear about girls falling out with one another all the time, even more so when social media is involved.

It is brave that you can be honest that you may have said something that was misinterpreted, be sure that this happens quite a lot.  These people sound like they are your good friends, and therefore it is worth trying to put this right.  The best way you can do this is to be honest, apologise for what you may have said wrong and see as a group what can be done to return to normal.  This can be tough to do, can I suggest that you do this in person

Did you know that in all of our schools in RCT we have a Youth Engagement Officer (YEO) who works for YEPS that is trained in restorative approaches? This means that if you speak to them they would know how to get you together to talk through the argument and work out a way to move forward? If you know who your YEO is get in touch, if not message YEPS at www.facebook.com/YEPSRCT and they will point you in the right direction.

Thanks for getting in touch deary – I am sure you can get through this.

Wicid Nan 🙂